tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3563948728142405444.post664823314952635161..comments2023-08-10T07:18:16.879-04:00Comments on Borrowed Light: How Do You Know If You Were Supposed to Marry Your Spouse?Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08034192017775511612noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3563948728142405444.post-6600084273049593552013-08-07T11:22:43.987-04:002013-08-07T11:22:43.987-04:00ysinitsky, I'm wondering upon what you're ...ysinitsky, I'm wondering upon what you're basing your statement that "religious approach to family life just makes people unhappy." That doesn't match the statistics I've seen about family life and religion. You say, "What's the point in the marriage which brings nothing but suffering?" In the same way, one could say, What's the point of caring for my terminally ill child when it brings nothing but suffering? It is because you made a commitment, because you love them even when things are troubled, because you know that suffering actually leads to better character and a stronger family in the long run (ever try training for an athletic competition without 'suffering' by practicing first?). Christianity is not for Sunday mornings but for all day, every day. Then we could look at your theory that simply canceling your relationships when they don't feel good is a good thing. In my observation, that leaves people very unhappy. I'd rather invest in the relationships I have than pretend that life gets better by disposing of relationships like trash when they don't make me feel good anymore. To me, that seems like a very Dark Age indeed.Paul Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05676240351257085823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3563948728142405444.post-67729609474073667162013-07-29T11:49:27.398-04:002013-07-29T11:49:27.398-04:00Keep going, Lucy.
You are doing right before the L...Keep going, Lucy.<br />You are doing right before the Lord.Johnnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3563948728142405444.post-75634027354475224702013-07-14T02:18:27.428-04:002013-07-14T02:18:27.428-04:00My experience with marriage has been short, but fa...My experience with marriage has been short, but far less than pleasant. I can honestly tell you that the only reason I'm still married to my husband is because I take my vow to God seriously and because I believe that God can be glorified in that obedience. Less than one year ago, I married my husband full of love and excitement for the life and family we would build together. Now, as health, financial and relational problems creep in, I find myself married to a man who once felt a call to ministry, but who now feels that God has abandoned him completely.<br /><br />Did I marry the wrong person? Honestly, I know some would say yes, but truthfully, I wouldn't. Our marriage is far less than perfect and I truthfully don't know that it will even survive (I pray that it does and that it changes, but he's threatened to leave me on multiple occasions), but I know that God often uses life's most difficult moments to teach us and make us more like Him. Walking this road has taught me more about trusting Him for my daily bread than anything else I've ever experienced.<br /><br />I hope that one day, I'll be able to look back on all of this and share how God turned things around, but even if things don't end well, I know that God is sufficient for me.<br /><br />ysinitsky - I know that that sounds like the Dark Ages to you, but I'd rather walk through a difficult marriage with God than be anywhere else without Him. My faith is my life - not merely something I do at church on Sundays.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15477830877982443732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3563948728142405444.post-6325338782137802232013-07-13T16:28:40.212-04:002013-07-13T16:28:40.212-04:00Once I said, “I do”, I forfeited the right to ask ...Once I said, “I do”, I forfeited the right to ask that question – Oh well, it smacks of Dark Ages. Things have changed. What’s the point in the marriage which brings nothing but suffering? The religious approach to family life just makes people unhappy. Religious belongs church on Sundays, drop the stuff when you enter everyday life, business, sex, recreation etc. Once I said, “I do”, I forfeited the right to ask that question – Oh well, it smacks of Dark Ages. Things have changed. What’s the point in the marriage which brings nothing but suffering? The religious approach to family life just makes people unhappy. Religious belongs church on Sundays, drop the stuff when you enter everyday life, business, sex, recreation etc. <br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3563948728142405444.post-74408210695784617852013-07-12T15:51:21.150-04:002013-07-12T15:51:21.150-04:00"I know that God intended for me to be marrie...<i>"I know that God intended for me to be married to my wife because…I’m married to my wife.<br /><br />That’s it. No magic 8 ball. No twenty questions to determine if she is right for me. Once I said, “I do”, I forfeited the right to ask that question."</i><br /><br />Absolutely and amen! This reminds me of Elisabeth "Elliot" Gren on her old Gateway to Joy radio program. I recall an episode where she addressed people who wondered if they were called to be single or called to be married. She said simply something to the effect that "if you are married you are called to be married. If you are single you are called to be single." If you are single, you can choose to get married. If you are married, you can no longer choose to be single. Single or married both have conditions of purity for their calling. If you are single, you cannot live as though you are married. If you are married, you cannot give up the responsibility you have toward your spouse.Jim Pembertonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01446388434272680014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3563948728142405444.post-27257221573879546152013-07-12T12:31:41.611-04:002013-07-12T12:31:41.611-04:00Amen.Amen.Terry Busterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05530565126716493439noreply@blogger.com